By: Tamara Ince
One night a girl was bored and messaged a guy on Instagram direct messenger. They chatted awhile and flirted. They then connected on Skype and hit it off. Dates followed and everything looked promising. Yet, the girl was scared, she didn’t let the guy lead. She didn’t share much of her background with him. Soon this lack of trust led to them breaking up. What could have ended up as an ideal match turned into a tragic love story? Whether you are scared or unable to trust due to childhood abuse, traumas, past infidelities or other issues, now is the time to overcome these.
Although most never really give much thought about trust throughout the day, it affects every aspect of our love and personal lives. If you cannot trust, then you may never be able to enjoy the full range of joys achievable from an intimate and healthy relationship with another. Experts from both Redeemer University College and Northwestern University have conducted research of trust in undergraduates’ relationships. They concluded that those in the most trusting relationships also expressed greater intimacy and joy. Furthermore, those with greater trust were able to better handle the inevitable challenges that pop up in relationships.
With the help of a licensed therapist, you can overcome the past and learn to trust and improve your lives. The healing can begin today by taking the following simple steps:
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